Daughter 3 is hoping, in the future, to pursue her dream of going to an American university on a football scholarship. But you don’t like flying, I say to her. Have you thought about that?
Partner and I are talking about it. I hope that it’s not my fault that she doesn’t like flying, I tell him. (Because I am of the opinion that every plane I go on is going to fall out of the sky). I have been really careful to hide my fear from her, I continue. She says she doesn’t like the confined space. Partner looks at me. You don’t think that’s got something to do with that time you left her locked in the car went inside, cooked the dinner and only when you were serving it up did you notice she wasn’t there, he questions. Or that other time when you left her in the car and only realised she hadn’t come in when she poked her head through the cat flap. Or it could be that time…ok, ok, I say crossly. Isn’t it just the parents’ role to feel constantly guilty for psychologically scarring their kids for life, I say, in an attempt to vindicate myself, but they then have to find their own path through? Yes, he replies, but isn’t it also the parents’ job to help them through the obstacles and not to put them there in the first place.
I’m sure there are plenty of other parents who’ve done the same, or worse and their children have turned out ok! I think nature counts for more than people realise! #FartGlitter
I call it character building…at least that’s what I’m telling their therapist haha!! Thank you for commenting 🙂
Haha, oopsie. But she isn’t scared of riding in cars, right? Then its totally not your fault
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Isn’t everything ALWAYS TOTALLY our fault…or is that just what teenage children tell us!!
Parenting is such a tough job. Everything is our fault, be it the good or the bad, it’s all just part of being a parent. I think the best of us struggle to cope with that sometimes. 🙂
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Absolutely! Some days with my teens I just feel I never get it right and then when I mention that to them, they are quite hurt and I think I can’t win! But of course it isn’t about winning. It’s about getting through it as best we can! Thank you for commenting 🙂