Happy Glampers

The owner of the glamping site didn’t sugar coat it: if we don’t take your porch off, your tent will blow away. With that, she handed us a bottle of champagne and apologised for the shower not working. So we’re battening down the hatches for the imminent arrival of Storm Katie. The Boden brigade in the tent next door have already booked themselves into a hotel for the night. Lightweights. Our answer to the promised storm was to load up our wheelbarrow – cars aren’t allowed on site – with as much gin, wine, crisps, marshmallows and cake mix, as a teenager can wheel across a field. We already have masses of pasta, hot chocolate and the champagne freebie stashed away: bring it on, Katie, bring it on!

imageThe porch being take down, ready for Storm Katie’s arrival 

So far this glamping lark has been a huge success. The tent is so posh, it resembles a house. So much so that I thought it was a house the first night, until it started flapping and then a huge shadow of partner appeared on our bedroom wall at 4am. He was trying to relight the stove, as the owner had mentioned that it is possible to keep it going all night and his competitive instinct kicked in. I woke up to what looked like the Incredible Hulk wielding a canoe, but it was just partner and his gas lamp and a log.

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Dog 1 and dog 2 are having a ball. Last night they needed a wee. It was dark. Partner asked me to put dog 1’s lead on (on the dog, not on me – thin walls). I felt around and struggled for a bit. It won’t go on, I said to partner. He shined his phone in my direction. That’s because you are trying to get it around his bum, he retorted.

I now realise why I had four kids: one to cook, one to wash up, one to dry and one to put away.

imageDaughter 1 being mum, while her mother is getting pissed on the sofa

Meanwhile, partner and I can languish on the sofa in front of the stove, drinking free champagne and waiting for the storm to hit.

Resurrection

This is a poem that I wrote many moons ago at Uni. It’s an alternative to fluffy bunnies and little lambs. Happy Easter!

Resurrection

The couple next door
Are having sex
Passionately,
Violently,
The whip’s cracking,
She’s screaming,
And Jimmy Hendrix is
The third party.
Downstairs
My mother is celebrating
Christ’s resurrection
With friends.
The easter hymns
Are gaining
Strength,
Speed and
Fervour.
The singers
Together
The couple
Synchronised
The chorus
Climaxing

In harmony.

MadHouseMum©

 

Streakin’ Hell!

Sitting in bed this morning, looking up places to visit near our campsite. This pub looks lovely, I say to partner and its dog friendly – if the dogs are well behaved. We both look at dog 1 and dog 2 chasing each other madly around the bedroom, a ball of growling, biting fur, jumping on then off our bed like a couple of whirling dervishes. Oh bollocks, partner says.
We’ve taken time to explain to daughters that there is no electricity and no WiFi in the tent. This promoted two portable chargers to be hurriedly bought by daughters 1 and 4, using Amazon Prime – that’ll be the Amazon Prime that step daughter left us with when she came to visit and watched a movie – a movie that we have on DVD. Anyway, everyone is now making use of it for a month. The whole idea is that we get away from all this, I tell them, we are going to reconnect. But I’ll lose my streak, moaned daughter 2. I must tell my streakers so that they can keep up the streaks while I’m away. My parental voice of concern kicks into action: streakers? I ask. What the hell are you talking about? I don’t want to think about it too hard. On Snapchat mum, don’t worry about it. Oh great, I think to myself. Another thing one of my teenagers tells me I don’t need to worry about, which always makes me worried.
Daughter 2 wants to take her full length mirror camping. I’m going to wrap it in bubble wrap, she tells me. God, we are nowhere near leaving the house and I am stressed. Like we need a mirror to tell us how crap we all look in wellies and fleeces, daughter 1 mutters.
I insist that partner shaves and that I wash my hair before we go. You have to start a camping trip looking the best you can, I tell him, because each day you go gradually downhill. I’m taking my Clairol 5 in 1 shampoo, daughter 1 says. Five in one, I think to myself. I’ve heard of 2 in 1 but god they pack some shit into shampoos these days. Five in one sounds like it’s covering a multitude of needs and eventualities.
Daughter 1 has just googled post delivery on Good Friday and found out there isn’t one. Which means that, however amazing and expensive Amazon Prime is, they are not going to get their chargers today. My snap streak! she’s wailing. Partner and I run for cover. I’m taking my guitar and a bottle of whisky, says partner. To cover a multitude of needs and eventualities.
We’re all ready with our things in the hallway. Anyone seen the keys to the roofbox? Partner enquires. Oh bollocks…
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Life Could Always be Worse

Life worse

I keep bumping into things. I don’t think it’s due to a medical condition, I’m putting it down to three things: distraction, speed and tiredness. If you think about it, these three words pretty much sum up a parents’ lot in life. One daughter or another is often telling me that they told me something that I am denying having heard – I was probably distracted. I feel quite guilty about being distracted when they are wanting my attention. When they were little, I would purposefully distract myself from their whingeing and tantruming, in order to prove a point: life isn’t only about you sunshine, get used to it! However, now they are teenagers and they still need my attention, perhaps now more than ever.

Parents are always rushing. We pack so much into our kids’ lives now, that finding time to breathe takes quite an effort and you can forget about having a leisurely crap – there’s just no time. People are often quite shocked about how fast I eat. I put it down to having four kids so close together. I had to get it down my neck before one of them needed something. Have you ever thought about how proficient parents become at eating one handed? My ex and I used to call our dinners: one handed scoff. For years we were hard wired to only cooking meals that required a fork.

Finally, there’s tiredness. I can tackle just about anything life throws at me on sufficient sleep. One bad night, however and it’s like the hangover from hell. Where’s the post, Hun? (In the freezer). Mum, where’s that form you signed? (On the back of the shopping list). Where are my keys? (Inside). Where am I? (Locked out). So it goes on and so we all go on. Putting one foot in front of the other and hoping that life is good enough and on some days, much better. I just saw this post on Facebook, written by a mum with small kids: Lovely dog walk, with only 1 Minnie (sic) disaster ☺️ As parents, our lives are 1 mini disaster after another, but we take them in our stride and things can still be lovely. Above all, despite the bruises from walking into door knobs and furniture, the dodgy choice of clothes because of the lack of time and the fact that my children sometimes feel ignored, life could always be worse.

Postscript
Life Could Always Be Worse…we could be spending Easter in a tent, with 4 teenagers and no wifi in the pissing rain…oh, we are. Well, the tent could have a hole in it and the alcohol could run out.

Easter Scrooge

A few years ago we almost stopped giving the girls chocolate for Easter. I was so sick of the stuff. Mountains of chocolate would be left in our cupboard for weeks afterwards. I would give a huge bag of it to anyone who came round to our house looking hungry in May. Even the girls were beaten into chocolate submission. Easter eggs are like Christmas decorations: fine at the time, but by January you are sick of the sight of them. 

Maybe I am just an Easter Scrooge. We had one Easter bonnet that we made when daughter 1 was 4, that did 12 years of Easter hat parades. One year we had a problem, as two daughters were in the same parade. Just share it, I managed to convince them. You wear it up until: Chick, Chick Chicken, lay a little egg for me and then shove it on your sister’s head. That Easter bonnet never won a prize once in all those 12 years. Some of the hats I see now, proudly displayed on Facebook, with captions such as: look at what I made..erm…she made…, look amazing, but they won’t last a day, let alone 12 years. They won’t have the staying power of our…erm I mean their bonnet. 

For the past couple of years, we have offered the kids a fiver or an egg. At first, the two younger ones opted for the egg, not wanting to break with tradition. However, last year they worked out that shops pop out pretty decent eggs at a pound a go, so they took the fiver and bought themselves several eggs, thus causing our plan to spectacularly backfire. 

This Easter we are in a tent. Everyone who asks if we are going on holiday, as they wave their ski poles in our faces, says: oh no! when I mention the tent. It’s a posh tent, I add, we’re glamping. But I can see it in their eyes, they are thinking: no amount of posh can stop it pissing down. 

So, this Easter I think we will break with tradition and we shall take chocolate to the tent. I feel that we need to feed our addictions this weekend, rather than shun them. We will pack our knackered old bus full of chocolate and wine and peanut butter. Peanut butter is partner’s addiction. He drove via Waitrose last night after work, because he had none for the morning. They only had organic, he tells me. He opens it and sniffs it, like one might a fine wine. Does it taste any different? I ask him. Oh yes, he tells me, as if I have asked whether Blossom Hill tastes different to claret. It tastes like a real monkey nut. I’m not convinced, but he shall have his peanut butter and the girls shall have their chocolate. I shall sit in our tent, clutching a glass of wine, watching the rain pissing on the fire pit, feeling like a real Easter Scrooge. 

Onesies and Crocs – Don’t Judge.

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Daughters 3 and 4 bouncing in onesie heaven

I have an aversion to onesies, not that I’m judging. Some of my lovely readers may well pop one on after they’ve done the school run. Hell, they may do the school run in it (see blog: Mamas in Pyjamas), but personally, they aren’t my bag. 

Back in the Middle Ages, my sister had one. I hated it even way back then, with its prudish zip that went up to her neck. She was a teenager goddamn it, and I felt she should have been letting it all hang out – I was! She loved that cosy onesie and no amount of sibling ribbing could unzip her. 

Fast forward 30 years and the bloody things are back to haunt me. I don’t think big sister has one of the current trend but her kids do, my kids do, I’ll bet your kids do. I see them all coming out of swimming lessons in them on a Friday night: a stream of onesies – is there a collective noun for that yet? There’s surely enough people wearing them to warrant their own word. They look like a crowd of little furry animals: hoods up with ears, but school shoes spoil the look and what do you do if your onesie has built in feet? Well, I know what you do because my kids have them. Put the bin outside please. I can’t, I’m in my onesie. Put the big crocs on then. Built in feet are no barrier to chores in our house. No excuse has gone unturned. Do your washing up. I’m already upstairs. Walk. Put your clothes away. I’ll miss the train. So? Clean the skid marks. I’m meeting facetime friend in 2 minutes. And? 

FullSizeRender Daughter 4 and dog 2 both with ears

Back to onesies and CROCS. Now I mention those hideous beasts I feel they need their own sound bite. Never was a more ugly shoe ever invented. Ask my two best buds about crocs and they will explode like Mount Vesuvius. Number 1 New Zealand friend refuses to let her hubby wear them. Partner wears his into the office in our garage over his slippers, but usually forgets to take off his crocs. It’s a look that will never get into Vogue. It’s a dreadful look. Number 1 friend works in said office – she’s never impressed. Dog 2 chewed up partner’s first pair of crocs and I’m still pretty sure that Number 1 friend fed them to him.

Crocs n slippers  Partner de la mode (not)

Now, I did begin this by saying that I wouldn’t judge…but I am going to end it with a judgement: if there is one thing worse than onesies, onesies with in built feet, onesies with crocs and crocs with slippers: IT’S MEN IN ONESIES. All I’m going to say on that matter is that it’s wrong, just so very wrong. Judgement Day has come.

Here is the link to the video daughters 3 and 4 made to support this blog:

Puberty

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I wrote this when I had no children. Little did I know I will experience this amazing transformation so many times!

Puberty

Any second now – I could become a woman
Mum told me.
It happens in a flash
One minute you’re an ordinary kid
And the next thing
Before you know it
You’re one of them.

I don’t know why it happens so quickly
Without warning
There could be kid’s things left to do
Games unplayed
Toys untouched
But I know that it could happen
Any second now.

When Mum first told me
I waited for it
I told my friends that I couldn’t come out to play
I missed Guides
But the woman never came.
Or if she did –
I didn’t notice.

Mum didn’t say exactly how I’d know
That this amazing thing had happened
I’m worried – I could be walking around for years
Thinking I was a kid
When I wasn’t.
And it could happen
Any second now.

Now I’ve given up waiting.
One of my friends told me
That she became a woman two weeks ago
I don’t believe her – she still looks the same
Women don’t have plaits
Drink milkshakes
Or blow raspberries.

By MadHouseMum©

 

Vibrating Tampons – now you’re talking!

Lovely Jubbly Jugs, but Sometimes Life Sucks

MHM Life Sucks

Jamie Oliver has had it in the JUGular this week, for talking about breastfeeding. This is just one of the tweets I’ve seen:

“Lovely jubbly jugs wiv bootiful nipples. Bish bash bosh, lug of milk. Get stuck in, littl’un. Pukka!” – Jamie Oliver, breastfeeding expert

The trouble for Jamie is that he’s like Marmite: you either love him or hate him. He has been on the tweet defensive, saying that he is not starting a Breastfeeding Campaign and his comments were merely relating to his work in nutrition. I think it highlighted a really good point that yes, we know that breastfeeding is probably best for the baby. However, it is not always possible to breastfeed and if it doesn’t work out then don’t sweat it. I breastfed daughter 1 for 6 months, daughter 2 for 4, daughter 3 for less and daughter 4 for less again. Did I feel guilty about the later crew getting less of the boob? No. They all seem relatively normal and daughter 4 has the loudest voice – fueled on more booby juice it could have been even louder – I shudder to think.

This article in The Telegraph, written by Victoria Young, talks about the difficulties women can face when they try to breastfeed. It makes for an interesting read and a good alternative to tweets from or about Jamie:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/family/jamie-oliver-needs-to-stop-mansplaining-breastfeeding-to-women/

Concept Man

A friend posted this on facebook, as the best birthday card she had received and I thought it goes rather well with a poem that I wrote at Uni. What would your concept man/woman be able to do? Happily sleep on the wet patch, for example (keep it clean! Actually, nah!)

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Concept Man

I like men –
As a concept.

Someone
Who can hoover the lawn
On a lonely Sunday
And practice DIY.

It’s the truth
That scares me.

Sundays spent alone
Staring at the Flymo
Waiting
Hopefully.

Banging a nail
Into the wall
And pretending
That it’s his head.