Who says girls can’t fight?

I’d always admired her breasts. Perhaps there was even a little envy. So well rounded and so early – years before mine had woken up. I loved the way they sat in her shiny Marks and Spencer’s bra. I don’t think that I stared and I was conscious that I mustn’t. Yet, I wanted to. I wanted to indulge a little in my awe of them. There was certainly no sexual intent in this. It was pure admiration for something that I didn’t yet have. Something that I knew that I was going to get and I hoped that when I did, they would look just like hers. It was the only real thing that separated us. When we left the swimming pool and squeezed into a changing room together, we were different. Until those gorgeous breasts were packaged up and a t-shirt was pulled over them and a hoodie and then we were the same again – giggling, getting up to mischief, building dens.

Then I heard that she had found a lump. It was Cancer and suddenly we were different once again. We are different, but other friends are now the same. Everyone knows someone. Those two beauties had been invaded by the beast. Now the fairy tale ending is getting the all clear. Being left with a feeling that you are now one of the lucky ones. Lucky? Can’t definitions be strange? The grueling rounds of treatment that sap you into a void, yet they make you feel so lucky for everything you have.

I know she will be lucky. She’s stubborn and strong and that’s a winning combination. Now, I can only hope that we’ll never be the same, but that she will be lucky.

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38 thoughts on “Who says girls can’t fight?”

  1. Oh I hope all is OK? Seems so strange to use the word lucky here doesn’t it? But I guess we try to look for the positive in a situation and surviving and fighting is that. Stubborn and strong sounds like the perfect combination. Sending much hope and love xx #MarvMondays

  2. I wish her all the best. My grandmother and my aunt had breast cancer and there’s a chance (medical speaking) I get it too. So, not a good feeling, especially when so many women struggle with this dissease. Lucky really is a strange word to use here, but it’s how it is. Lucky to be healthy, nothing wrong to be thankful for that!x #AnythingGoes

    1. It must be really scary when there is a genetic link. We all need luck in life and I hope you have the luck of your health x

  3. My mom just beat it. It was scary as fuck I will not lie The anxiety, the fear, the sadness for her and selfishly for myself. Two years cancer free and so very thankful that she fights like a little chicken on meth.

    #anythinggoes

  4. Oh gosh, it is always so awful to hear of anyone having cancer it is so cruel and the fight is so tough. Bless her and truly hope she wins this fight xx Thank you for sharing such a powerful post on #mg

  5. Two nights ago my friend told me that she has been diagnosed. We both lost our mums to ‘The Beast’ and always bonded over the frustaration and anger of that. Her ending too is unclear. I sent all sorts of positive thoughts to them both. I don’t know what else to say. What else is there to say? I’m still stuggling to find the words. Until I do, I’ll find some comfort in yours. Thanks for sharing. #AnythingGoes

    1. I don’t know what else to say either – which is why I reached out to my friend with this post. What can you say? We can be there, be positive, be practical I guess. I dearly hope your friend gets through it x

  6. Such a difficult and heartbreaking thing to write about so kudos to you awesome Mama <3 and kudos to your strong and powerful friend; standing strong and fighting is super admirable and the perfect way to conquer evil such as this #brilliantblogposts

  7. I hope your friend is ok hun, I think she’ll appreciate this. It’s beautifully written and a reminder to appreciate our own health. Lots of love and luck xx #brillblogposts

  8. It’s scary and none of us can understand that fully unless we have been there ourselves. My mother fought and won but has just restarted that battle after a long reprieve. We can never be complacent but life must be lived. I hope all turns out well, love and support makes a huge difference. #MarvMondays

    1. My thoughts go out to you and your mum. It’s horrendous having fought and won, to have to do it again. Lots of positive thoughts to you both x

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